The Weirdest Ways We Show Love (And Why They Matter)

Alright, the month of love is here. So is the panic of finding the perfect way to express it.

We all know the classic love languages - words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. But let’s talk about the other love languages. The ones that make you think, Wait…was that love?

Yes, I am talking about the awkward love languages. But hey, those weird love languages matter just as much. And the more we avoid them, the more we miss out on quirky, hilarious, and heartwarming ways to show we care.

So, let’s break down these unsung love languages, and I will throw in some of my own experiences to remind you that it’s all perfectly normal.

The “I Bought You This, But It’s Really Not a Big Deal”  Language

You know that one friend (or partner) who buys you something completely random, like a Yoda in a tea cup. They hand it over with a casual, “Oh, it’s nothing, Just thought you would like it.” Meanwhile, you are standing there thinking “Wait, I do like it.”

Every time I meet my friend, she casually hands me a packet of Cadbury Gems. No words, no explanation. It just became a quiet ritual that started when she noticed how much I loved them. Over time, it became our own little secret love language. 

Why it matters: This is the love language for people who don’t need to make a big deal out of their feelings but still show up in the sweetest ways. They show up with a random gift that somehow makes you feel ridiculously special. It’s like a surprise party in a gift form.

The “I’ll Make Your Favourite Meal, But I Won’t Say I Love You” Language

Ever had your mom, dad, or partner whip up your favourite meal without you mentioning it? They don’t say “I love you” but that hot plate of food is like a giant hug. You know they care because they remember what you like to eat, even if they don’t say it out loud.

My mother sometimes makes my absolute favourite meal but will lie about what’s for lunch just to see my face light up when I realise. (I’m not crying, you are!) No one ever outgrows this kind of love. 

Why it matters: This is the love language of practical affection. Subtle, but hits you right in the feels.

The “I’ll Compliment You, But I’ll Do It in the Weirdest Way” Language

This is for people who try to compliment you but it’s so offbeat and bizarre that you are unsure if you should thank them or ask them if they are okay. 

I am that person. Instead of saying “You look amazing!”, I say “You look so good, I want to punch you." All I wanted to say was that person is a total knockout and I am overwhelmed. 

Trust me, my heart is in the right place. 

Why it matters: This is the love language of awkward admiration. It is especially common with siblings. Let's be honest - we would rather take a bullet for them but would never compliment them properly.

The “I Know You Are Awesome, But I Want The World To Know It Too!” Language

You know that co-worker who refuses to let you stay humble? The one who loudly announces your efforts to the entire office even when you would rather stay under the radar? That right there is awkward because it puts you in the spotlight, but it is also incredibly flattering because it shows that your efforts are noticed and valued. It is embarrassing, but also…kind of nice.

A dear friend of mine used to do this at a past workplace. On full team calls, she would unmute just to give me an aggressive shoutout. As much as she is equally as awkward as me (hence the aggression), she did it anyway because she wanted me to know she was proud and felt my efforts were to be appreciated.  It is a warm hug of recognition

     

The “I’m Going To Catch You Off Guard” Language

I am talking about the moments when you are caught off guard by someone's physical affection. It is not about constant hugs or hand-holding; it is about those rare, meaningful moments where physical touch unexpectedly makes you feel connected. Maybe it's a hand on your shoulder when you are stressed or a spontaneous hug that feels like it came out of nowhere. 

A few months ago, I caught up with an old childhood friend at a crowded event. We were deep in conversation, laughing and eating when out of nowhere, she just swept me into a hug. I’m not a hugger. But that moment? That moment hit. My leg even popped like in a princess movie. It was pure nostalgia because that is exactly how she used to hug me when we were third graders. 

Why it matters: This is the love language of unexpected and spontaneous warmth. Even if you are not a physically affectionate person, these little moments are genuine, and awkward and pull you out of your comfort zone and remind you that connection is not always verbal.

Love is Everywhere 

With Valentine's Day coming up, do not look for love in obvious places. Notice the little things - the silent traditions, the weird compliments, the casual gestures. They might be unconventional, but they are just as powerful.

To give that little nudge, I have added a collection of funny love language cards to gift your family and co-workers. Check them out and send one to someone and make their day.

Show Some kwurky Love – Check Out Our Valentine’s Cards

 

With all the love (and awkwardness)

Keerthanaa

Founder, kwurk